Unconditional Love Really Means Unconditional Radiance

The fastest way to raise your frequency is to do the job you were designed to do. You were designed to love. You were designed to radiate Love unconditionally. Now before you go, "Oh THAT again. I've tried loving unconditionally, and it is impossible," you need to understand that what I'm saying is different. What I'm saying is that you are to love, plain and simple. Not love somebody. Not love something. Just to love. Okay, in a sense, you are to love somebody or something, but not in the ordinary sense. You are simply to love God.

You were designed to be a receiver and transmitter of Life Force, also known as Love. The ability to do that is hard-wired into your body-mind. But we have largely forgotten how that is designed to work, and confuse the act of loving with our personal relationships with other human beings. Loving is rightly an impersonal act. Now, I'm not saying that there can't be a personal aspect to loving--of course there can and is. However, one of the things that stops us from doing what we are designed to do is that we tend to tie the act of loving--or not loving--into a recipient, or lack thereof.

There actually always is a recipient of your Love--it's just probably a little different than you may have considered before. You were designed to participate in a mighty cycle of Love, issuing from God, returning to God. If you've read Recreating Eden, you know that there is a masculine aspect of God, and a feminine aspect. When you radiate Love, you are participating in the larger action of "Father God" (masculine, radiating aspect) loving "Mother God" (feminine, receiving aspect). Both at the macro level of God--God the Source--and the personal level--God In You, there is a radiation of Love and a receiving of Love between the masculine and feminine aspects. This is how it is designed to work: Source radiates, the feminine within you receives, the masculine within you radiates, Source receives and the cycle continues. The more dynamically the feminine and masculine within you participate in the larger cycle of God loving God, the higher your frequency and the more paradisiacal your life is.

In the process, the experience of Love in all Creation is increased. This is where the personal aspect of loving comes in. When you understand that God is in everyone and everything, you know that as you radiate Love unconditionally, and hold an entity in your consciousness, their experience of the Love increases. The only Love that we experience is of God, not of another person. When we feel Love from someone else--or think we do--it's merely that the radiance from God In Them is catalyzing a greater experience of attunement with God In Us. It is attuning us with the mighty flow of Love that God radiates constantly. There is no Love but the Love of God, loving God.

Practically speaking, what we are called to do is to radiate Love the way that Source does. We are to radiate it whether or not we feel it is being received (it always is--just not necessarily consciously received by the object of your focus). We are called to radiate Love whether or not we believe someone "deserves" it: God always "deserves" it! Remember, you are not actually loving a person or a thing--you are loving God. You may feel fondness for the particular configuration of form that God has created in another person, but as for Love, you never get Love from outside yourself--when you experience Love, you are only experiencing the movement of Life Force through you. You are participating in the cycle of Love from God, to God.

We are called to radiate Love even when we feel we don't we have it in us. But here's a cool thing to know: while you can't radiate Love unless you first receive it, the intention to radiate it will initiate the flow of Love to you from Source. As you may remember from Recreating Eden, the Adam in you--the inner masculine--may be holding the inner feminine--Eve--out of alignment. The easiest way to turn this around is for Adam to decide to consciously radiate Love. The act of doing so aligns both aspects of you the way that they were designed to be. When you engage your masculine, radiant aspect in the job it was designed for, that automatically puts Eve in the receptive position, and Adam in the radiating position. And the rest is as natural as breathing. Because it's what you were designed to do, you were born knowing how to Love. Neat system, don't you think?!

Yes, we are to radiate Love no matter what. Bad mood? Don't feel like loving? The fastest way to raise your frequency upward out of less-than-joy--and to experience more Love, yourself--is to do what you are designed to do! We are to be as consistent and persistent at radiating Love as is God. What if God got in a snit and withheld Life Force/Love because we weren't consciously open to receive it? The Whole of Creation would collapse! What if God withheld Life Force/Love because we weren't aware or appreciating it? What if God withheld Life Force/Love because we were being jerks? Thankfully, God radiates Love impersonally, unfailingly, unconditionally. Love radiates from God whether we appreciate it or are unaware of it. Love radiates from Source regardless of what we do--or don't do. When we intend to Love in the same constant and impersonal way as does God, the Source, and do so more and more, our journey home to the higher frequencies where ease and joy are the norms, is expedited exponentially. Indeed, unconditional radiance is the key to everything.

So, the next time someone cuts you off in traffic and you're tempted to go into reverse polarity, withhold Love, and perhaps even actively focus the opposite of Love in the offender's direction, understand that you are truly removing yourself from the flow of Life Force and Love, reducing your own frequency (and thus, the frequency of the Whole), and you are removing yourself from the cycle of God loving God that you were designed to facilitate. In such a situation, you are doing the exact opposite of what is needed--whenever there is disharmony, what is needed is not judgment and reaction, what is needed is more Love. I understand that it is human nature (or rather, the ego's and reptilian brain's nature) to react defensively and unlovingly, but our very job as human beings, and certainly, as re-creators of Eden, is to listen to and obey God In Us, ignore the serpent, and continue radiating Love, no matter what! If you should happen to be pulled out of alignment by your ego, just take a deep breath, let your ego know you're on to it, tell it to be silent, center yourself in the Truth, align with your Spirit, and radiate Love as you were intended to do. You'll be surprised how wonderful it feels--after all, it's what you were designed for!

©2005 Julia Rogers Hamrick

Julia Rogers Hamrick is a visionary who spontaneously revisited the reality state called “Eden” in 1982 when her response to a catastrophic illness catapulted her to a radically higher frequency. She has been a spiritual-growth facilitator for over two decades, and is the author of Recreating Eden: The Exquisitely Simple, Divinely Ordained Plan for Transforming Your Life and Your Planet. To learn more about her Eden experience, read the introduction to Recreating Eden by going to http://www.recreating-eden.com/RecreatingEdenIntroduction.html For more information on Julia and on recreating Eden, visit http://www.recreating-eden.com To read about Julia's own dance with Spirit and ego, read Julia's blog, accessible from her website. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Julia_Rogers_Hamrick

Just Love Me!

Just LOVE me, like a fat kid loves cake!

Have you ever felt like that? When I first heard that, it hit me like a ton of bricks. To be in LOVE like that or to be loved like that would just rule forever. Is that not what we are all yearning for? Do we not seek out LOVE from the second we breathe as an infant? We search our parents eyes for that look of LOVE. We smile because we know it makes them smile with the LOVE that they feel for us.

To LOVE or not to LOVE? This is the question we all ponder through out life.

Why do we yearn to be someones everything? We want nothing more than to feel like the LOVE of one`s life. We spend our lives looking for that special person that will make our world seem like a dream. We want to feel safe and secure in our choice of partners. But how do we really know that this one is "the one" we will LOVE unconditionally forever? How do we know that this choice of LOVE will not break our heart? How do we know that this LOVE will LOVE us when the chips are down and we are not that perfect person that they fell in LOVE with?

Well I hate to sound like a wet blanket here on a cold night, but nothing is guaranteed. Life promises us nothing. We make our lives what they are, right at this moment. In matters of the heart we gamble, and as I have said before, to give LOVE is to risk losing LOVE. That is just another one of those bleary facts. Like rain storms and snowfalls, we have no control over anything that nature has given to us. We can only do our best with what we have. I have spoken before about gifts. Well, LOVE is a gift when it is given and when it is received. It does not happen because we say we want it to, or when we like a person and say "LOVE me". HA. I am sure that almost everyone out there will agree to that. I am also certain that the word "Stalker" comes from that notion.

LOVE can be a very scary risk. "Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it! It makes you so vulnerable. It opens you up, totally exposing your heart only to let someone get inside you and twist things up so tight, you can barely breathe. You build up defenses, you build an entire suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then that person, not seeming any different from any other person, wanders into your lonely life. You give them your heart. They didn't ask for it. They did something one day, like kiss you or smile your way, and then your life isn't your own any more. LOVE takes your heart hostage. LOVE swarms inside you. LOVE devours your entire being and leaves you crying in the darkness. With the simple phrase, "lets just be friends", it turns into a knife, cutting its way into your heart. The pain is like no other you have ever felt nor ever want to feel again. Not just in your imagination, not just in the mind. It's like losing a part of who you are, or rather who you were. That my friends is one reason we are so careful to not make the wrong LOVE choice. I know reading this totally makes one never want to do that. But we do, over and over again. Why?

Is it such a deep needed desire that we really have no control? Is cupids arrow that strong? YES on both counts.

LOVE is one of the most powerful sensations we will ever endure in our lives.

LOVE knows no limit to its power, no end to its trust, no loss of its hope.

LOVE can overpower anything.

LOVE stays up, when all else has falls down.

LOVE is felt when one grasps another's hand.

LOVE is as much of an object as an obsession. Everybody wants it and everybody seeks it, but few ever achieve it. Those who do, will cherish it, get lost in it, and among all, will never, ever forget it.

LOVE does not waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead it creates a perfect love.

LOVE is somewhat like an hourglass, the heart fills up on one side as the brain empties the other.

LOVE is admiring ones heart: as admiration is the love of ones mind.

LOVE is with you when you least deserve it, because that's when you really need it.

These are a few thoughts that I have that tell me what LOVE is and why LOVE is.

When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us.We must understand that until we admit that while our partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we alone are the only ones that can bring that same fulfillment to ourselves. No one is responsible for our happiness.

Some people fall into a pattern of needing that NEWNESS LOVE in their relationships. These people will go from one relationship to another forever, never getting off that roller coaster of failure. They never understand that LOVE has stages. LOVE at first is so full of mystery and excitement. Then we move into becoming comfortable with one another and blending our ways to continue to strengthen our LOVE for one another. We continue to grow with each other, adding newness to each other by growing in one world, but as two people. Our years together build our road to our destiny of spending our lives and enduring tribulations as one. If you want life to always be a bed of roses, then you best grow a few gardens, because the roses will only get there if you grow them or bring them to your life. In other words sweet people of LOVE, your LOVE and passion is only what you make it. If you ignore it or get too busy to feed it, it will die or fade away. It's like any other living breathing thing. LOVE needs to be treated with respect and treated like the special gift that it is.

Another thing we must be careful of is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image, otherwise LOVE is only the reflection of ourselves we find in them. LOVE like you mean it, it is the only true way to let your LOVE for one another grow stronger and continue to be all powerful and wonderful.

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Relationships ask us to contemplate "forever" as a way of life.

It is a world without end of our own creation.

Toni Sciarra Poynter

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The purpose of life is to discover your gift.

The work of life is to develop it.

The meaning of life is to give your gift away.

The gift, is LOVE!

Dorothy

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Religion: The Power of Love

There is no doubt in my mind that the quality of love is the #1 quality that God would like to get worked into our souls and personalities. Even nonbelievers, atheists and agnostics can see the power of love and how it has the ability to change people and change lives when it is properly walked out and handled.

Hollywood has made tons of movies just on the power of love - especially the special love that occurs between a man and woman in a romantic relationship. Even hard, tough grown men can be brought to tears when watching a real well made movie made about the power of love.

The quality of love is truly universal - as it literally transcends peoples, nations and religions. Love is truly the universal language of this world and people from all different walks of life recognize it for what it truly is and understand the power that is in it.

Then when you read and study the Bible - you see the major emphasis God the Father is placing on it when He tells all of us that He wants us to love Him, to love ourselves and to love one another.

So if the quality of love is recognized by all peoples and all nations - then why is it that throughout the course of our human history there has been so many wars, so much hatred, so much crime and so much inhumanity done to our fellow man? If everyone knows what love is - then how could so many people throughout the course of human history commit the evil and atrocious acts they have committed?

Even in our day and age people still have not learned from the past - as there is just as much hatred and evil operating in this world as there has ever been. The Bible even tells us that the love of many will grow cold in the latter days - which means things are going to actually go from bad to worse in the coming years.

If man really knows what love is - then why can't more people act, operate and walk in love so they we can all live in peace and harmony with one another? Why do people have to rob, rape, kill, plunder and steal from one another? No matter what one's religious beliefs and ideologies may be - there is simply no excuse for some of the horrible barbaric acts of murder, assaults, abductions, robberies and rapes that we see on an everyday basis.

As Christians, we all know that part of the answer as to why men can't love one another in the way and to the degree that God would like from us in this lifetime is due to our fallen natures - our sin natures that we have all been born with as a result of the curse of Adam and Eve. That is why Jesus had to come to die for all of us - because we have all sinned and have fallen way short of the glory of our God.

However, even saved and born again believers have problems in being able to walk in the quality of love to the degree that God would like in our everyday lives. We all know that God is expecting us to be able to walk in His love - but we still have problems in loving our God, our families, our friends and even ourselves to the degree and to the intensity that He would like from us.

We read in the Bible about all of the verses that God wants us to walk very strongly in this quality - but we still seem to fall short of being able to actually do it in our real lives. If we all have the Holy Spirit living and operating in us - then why is it that we cannot seem to draw more of His love up into our personalities so that we can all walk with more of this quality operating in our lives?

I believe that the answer lies in the last article I did under this section titled The 9 Fruits of the Holy Spirit. Too many Christians are trying to walk in the quality of love operating out of their own strength, out of their own emotions and out of their own flesh. Granted - God the Father wants us to do the best we can to put this quality on into the core of our personalities. But our best is not going to be good enough in this area to get the job done with the way God would like.

The reason for that is that we have all been born with these fallen, imperfect and sinful natures. This means that we are not capable of walking in perfect love - no matter how hard we try in our own natural strength. So what is the answer if we are not capable of walking in perfect love like God is?

To those believers who are really wanting to learn how to truly walk in the real love of God in their lives - there is only one way to be able to do this - and that is learning how to draw that love from the Holy Spirit. And the only way that you can get the Holy Spirit to release His love to you as one of His 9 fruits is that you have to be willing to enter into a true sanctification process with the Lord where God can start the process of making you to become more holy like He and His Son Jesus are.

There is no other way! There are no other shortcuts that you can take to get this accomplished. It is only when the love of God Himself starts to flow into your personality can you even begin to love God, love yourself and love other people to the degree and to the intensity that He would really like from you.

Once the Holy Spirit begins this sanctification process in your life - your job will be to learn how to walk, live and operate in the qualities and attributes He will start to transmit into your personality. Once the Holy Spirit starts to transmit His quality of love up into you - your job will then be to learn how to walk in that love in your words and actions with others.

Actually, once the Holy Spirit starts to transmit His love into you - it will become much easier for you to really love others in the way God wants you to be able to love them. Once you start to feel God's love for His people - you won't be able to help yourself in feeling that same love for them since God's love will start to mesh with your own love. Once God's love starts to flow and mesh into what limited love you already have - then you will be able to start to really love other people in the way that God had initially intended for all of us to be able to.

The missing ingredient in all of this is obviously the love of the Holy Spirit. It is only when the Holy Spirit starts to release His love into your personality as one of His 9 fruits can you truly begin to love your God, love yourself and love other people in the way God intended. Trying to love others with what limited, imperfect love you may already have operating in you will never get the job done - either to your own satisfaction or to the satisfaction of God Himself. That is why Jesus has told us that without Him we can do nothing - especially in the area of being able to get properly sanctified in Him.

I will give you some of the best verses from Scripture on the quality of love, and why God the Father is placing such a strong emphasis that we learn how to walk in it in our relation to Him, ourselves and to other people. God the Father is really raising the bar on this one specific quality as you will be able to see with the way that He has some of these verses worded out. He is making some extreme and radical statements with what He is expecting from us with just this one quality.

When you first read what these verses are telling us to do in reference to this particular quality - you will really be able to feel and sense your own shortcomings in this area. But again - realize that this is where the Holy Spirit will be coming in big time. Just realize that God knows that you cannot reach the level that He is looking for from you in this area - and that it will only be possible for you to reach this level only if the love of the Holy Spirit Himself is operating through you.

When you really study and meditate on the verses I will list below - you can sum all of them up in one simple statement. God is looking for you to be able to love in 6 different areas - all with the love of the Holy Spirit being available to you to help you out in each of these areas. God wants you to be able to fully love in all 6 of these realms. You are to learn to:

Love God Love yourself Love your family Love your friends Love your neighbors Love your enemies

You will notice that there are 6 specific areas that God will want you to be able to love in. Bottom line - God will want you to love right across the board - from loving Him down to being able to love the worst of your enemies. The first 4 areas are much more easier to learn how to do than the last two - especially the last one in being able to love your enemies and love those who will try and hurt you in this life.

Loving your family and friends is easy and comes very natural for many of us because of the strong bonds that we have already established with them. But learning to love some of your other neighbors who you have no real special bond with or complete total strangers will be much harder for you to do - especially with the way that our world has become with so many more people keeping to themselves and being afraid to trust anyone anymore.

However - this can be done with the help of the Holy Spirit. Once you start to feel the love of God Himself for some of these people - it will become much easier for you to befriend some of these people and help them when the need may arise. Again - Jesus is the perfect example of someone who was always helping out total strangers. When you study what He did as He was walking on our earth, He was always stopping and talking to people, along with helping, teaching, saving, healing and delivering some of these people when the need would arise. He was always there to meet their needs - especially their spiritual needs.

Just as Jesus was able to walk in perfect love in His words and actions with other people - so to can we learn how to walk in that same Godly love if we allow the Holy Spirit to enter us into this sanctification process where God the Father can then begin to work all 9 fruits of His Holy Spirit up into the very cores of our personalities.

Though we can never become as perfect as Jesus is in His walk with all of us - we can all still try to do and be the best we can be in God in our dealings and relationships with others.

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The Power of Love

"There must be a higher love/Without it life is wasted time." Those are the opening words to one of my favorite Steve Winwood songs. What could a higher love mean in your life - in the life of your clients?

Often, during a speaking engagement, I include a potent and important word that has people flinch -- "Love." They try to manage their flinching by adjusting their seats so that their neighbor or I won't notice. But, however subtle the movement, there it is. I'm not sure what all that flinching is about, but it makes me smile and piques my curiosity.

I've always been interested in what we are afraid of when it comes to love -- be it love of self or other. Certainly it is what we all desire, right? Now I'm talking real brotherly/sisterly love --universal love --not that acting like you care, "has a nice day" kind of sentimental formality. Why does the act of sharing love beyond the parameters of family and friends make us shift in our seats? Is it that we don't believe in it? Don't know how to attain it?

Bringing a higher love to coaching and any other relationship for me means letting it all go. All those wonderful mechanics we put in place to make us feel safe have to go. "Letting go" means taking off the armor and putting down the shield -- in whatever form it takes --that we use to defend ourselves should love be used against us or withdrawn from us at some future date. Letting go means putting aside those mental structures, such as judgment and comparison, which act as filters when we decide how to present ourselves to the world. It means not checking to see if we are safe enough to be ourselves or don one of our many personas. When we filter our interactions with the world in this manner, we remain cut off from ourselves, our source, our heart. The problem with letting go is that we have nothing to hang onto when we do so. It can feel like going into free fall without a parachute.

Our parachutes are the relationships we invest in, which include the relationship with ourselves. True investment, on the other hand, means we stack up the chips of love against all else, and we bet it all on love. Sure, it's risky, but playing it safe doesn't really make us feel safe anyway. So what are we really risking? When we orient ourselves from Love, what we are risking doesn't feel so scary because the focus is on who we are being in each moment -- no conditions, no pretenses, no strings attached. When we orient ourselves from fear, then each moment is a calculated, high-risk venture because so much of what we are betting on with fear has to do with our perception of "the other." And so we hedge our bets; we lock and load our filters.

In the space of unconditional love, a coach's hearing is fine tuned to hear beyond the words of the client to hearing the energy of them - a much richer space to be in. We are no longer listening for the love we need or the attack we expect. Our listening moves from the ego's power-hungry center to the heart's welcoming center. In love, there are no boundaries regarding what we would risk saying, asking or telling in the interest of our clients' well being. From the space of Love, I will risk sounding unprofessional, like a judging machine or even vulnerable. You name it; I'd risk it. In my experience, mistakes made out of love have had far more success then any hard wired, logical sequence of inquiries my mind could create. Love is illogical to the mind and thus follows a more fluid, intuitive, divine pattern. It gets into places the mind hasn't even imagined let alone conceptualized. Sometimes I'm even afraid of what Love asks me to say to my client. I often refer to this type of interaction as "Coaching with Pampers."

I had been coaching one client for over a year and we were getting nowhere very slowly. While coaching him, I found myself multitasking: making grocery lists, counting lint and wanting to read my e-mail when Love pulled on my earlobe and whispered, "Tell him the truth." My face froze at the nudging and my heart rate increased. How could I tell him what I truly thought? It was too rude, crude and he'd hate me for sure. And Love responded cheekily, "Good thing this isn't about you then." So I took a deep breath, envisioned pampers where my underwear should be and said, "You know I love you, and I've got to tell you that you are a man without a spine; and a man without a spine will never move forward." I continued, "I don't think this is how you meant to be living your life, and I know inside of you lives a man of great courage. Can I coach him now?" Then I shut up, and the line went silent. After a month of being really angry with me he called and said, "I have been really mad at you and really grateful. You were the only one to tell me what I've known about myself for years. I'm ready to grow a spine and live my dreams. Will you help me?" I'm not sure how long we cried together. The moment transcended time. I guess that's the power of Love.

When I allow Love to lead the way in my coaching, I am w-a-y over there with my client -- my agenda, my great ideas and my inhibitions long forgotten. For the love of my client's dreams, visions, goals and success I'd risk it all -- even being wrong or offensive. When the coaching is tempered with Love clients can hear anything and everything a coach has to say because they can feel that you are in it for them. In fact, you may be the first person they feel is really in it for them without any hidden agendas!

As our clients come to understand that their coaches are not just another professional with strategies and techniques but, instead, are allies in their lives, they come to trust that, regardless of what they reveal to us, we will hold that space for them and still love them. By teaching our clients that judgment cannot reside in the space of loving connection, we free them -- and ourselves -- from the fear of rejection. Love literally helps shift us from a perspective of suffocation and limitation to embracing liberation. When clients shift their perspective, their worlds change. And life flows easily once the passageway is cleared. Once they are released from withholding all of whom they are and from fear of rejection and shame, clients become more available to themselves. Eventually their negative mental chatter quiets.

Have you ever seen a child who has not been loved? There is a deep pain where love never goes much less lives. If that child doesn't receive love, he or she is never quite right. And, through that pain, suffering builds a stronghold in his or her spirit. Whenever we are in pain and there is no love to comfort us, we are suffering and alone. What an unbearable existence! We were meant to thrive not exist. Sure, some pain is part of living, but so is comfort and loving kindness, and that comes in the form of the human exchange of love.

Another client I coached for a few months revealed to me a case of molestation as a child. This was something she had never shared with anyone, not even a therapist she had seen several years back. I had to inquire, "What made you share this information with me?" She responded, "Because, with you, I knew that, no matter what I had done, you would see me as beautiful and worth loving." Love coached this woman, and I was happy to be the conduit. Through our mutual admiration, respect and love, she later learned to trust another therapist to move him through her pain. That afternoon, her response sold me on the power of Love and altered my coaching and my interactions with people forever. "Wow!" I thought, "If Love could lift that boulder from her back, then we are both lightened."

Many people have told me that they became coaches to help make a difference in people's lives. In making that difference or having a positive impact for the sake of our clients, we must distinguish ourselves from the amateur who is inexperienced or unskilled in love. Whether I am coaching a high level executive or a prison inmate, I find that the capacity to love my clients enhances my ability to coach them. When I let go of the rules of society that dictate distance and formality in the name of professionalism, I find that we are just two human beings sharing a very real human experience -- connectedness. The Random House dictionary describes professionalism as "the standing practice or method of a professional, as distinguished from an amateur." Well, there you have it. But why bother? Sure it sounds plausible, but you may ask yourself can I an executive coach, a sales coach, teen coach, business coach really cross that boundary of professionalism? More importantly, am I willing to redefine professionalism to accommodate the very real needs of my client in a given moment? Are you?

Ultimately, Love is the only thing that matters and, because this is so, Love is the only thing that makes change possible and permanent. Stop to think of what you have changed in yourself. I'm sure Love was part of the equation. Will power just isn't enough to sustain clients in the long run. Love is the fuel when the will power of being goal oriented burns us out.

One of the reasons I am in the coaching profession is the fact that we have permission to love our clients deeply. Being with my client up close and personal there is a honoring of their humanity that allows them to relax into the relationship revealing things that have been walled away for many a lifetimes.

To love our clients deeply, to reveal our willingness to love unconditionally puts us in a vulnerable space. As humans, we are always teaching one another how to walk in the world. As coaches, we have an opportunity and a responsibility to model deeper universal truths that manifest the vastness of bigger possibilities. The modeling of vulnerability calls us forth to stand in the light -- client and coach. Once exposed to the light of Love, those dark secrets that hindered personal and/or professional success cease to have ultimate control and, thus, no longer dominate how clients respond and interact with their world. Counterintuitive as it may seem, vulnerability isn't about people taking advantage of us or standing by patiently while they attack us. Quite the opposite, vulnerability entails opening our hearts to the love that is forthcoming, and expanding our capacity to love others. Vulnerability is an act of loving trust.

We'll never find a better teacher than Love. Love teaches me without shame. It has me stay in relationships when I'd rather run away. When I find my clients boring, unwilling to move, grow or change, Love tugs at my ear, reminding me again to stop putting boxes around them. Love wipes the fog of judgment away from eyes, allowing me to see how my lack of vision for my clients stunts their growth -- and mine. Instead of making them "wrong" with my limited vision, Love shows me how to witness their pain, struggles and efforts with compassion and grace. When I stifle my client, I stifle myself, and Love flees. In those precious few moments we have with our clients, we have the power to create an intimate cocoon and to bringing a higher love into the space. This action creates a life-sustaining force that grounds both client, coach, and serves as a beacon when either party looses them self to the chaos of the ego's persuasive, self-indulgent chatter.

Loving is the simple practice of softening one's heart to feel another's. We begin by stopping any objectifying of our clients that we may be doing. We start holding them as the most important subject of interest. Even the simple task of moving from thinking of them as a group of clients to individualized relationships allows us to co-create something very different. By this simple practice, we become vulnerable to that most needed commodity -- compassion, this "feeling with" that engenders empathy and loving-kindness. The energy field of unconditional love releases us, and our clients, from the polished and superficial skills of manipulation, hiding, lying and being scared of not being accepted for who we are. It grants us permission to step out from behind our mascaras, our masks.

One thing I know for sure and my coaching experiences support this: every person I have coached has shared with me, in one form or another, his or her desire for the freedom to love and be loved. To be truly loved -- warts and all. Every client -- be it doctor, lawyer, coach, financial planner, chef, parent, teen, inmate, Christian, Jew, Buddhist, Native American, spiritual follower --wants the same thing: Love, pure and simple. And why not? It is the birthright of each and every one of us to love and be loved.

Melanie DewBerry-Jones is a twice-certified coach and senior trainer for The Coaches Training Institute (CTI), a leading coaching school. Melanie is a speaker, storyteller, and member of the National Speakers Association. http://www.soulpurposecoaching.com

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What Does Unconditional Love Really Mean?

Unconditional love means unconditional freedom. Love and freedom are two of those words that are interchangeable. Freedom of choice is unconditional love-
unconditional freedom. Choice is another of those words that are interchangeable with Love and freedom.

For the most part, humanity understands little of what the word unconditional means. Unconditional means... "NO CONDITIONS." This lack of understanding is what has divided man from man, and religion from religion throughout his sojourn in the physical reality. It is again man's ego trying to grasp the idea, and not being able to surrender to its meaning. It appears to be the nature of humanity to always add conditions to unconditional-let me demonstrate.

The one common thread that I have found weaving through man's many belief systems is that God is Unconditional Love. I have yet to have anyone tell me that this is not so, and it seems to be accepted by all belief systems that are centered on a creator. If you are in disagreement with this statement then there would probably be no sense in you reading any further.

Now it must be made clear in this example that unconditional means that there are no conditions to God's Love. Do you understand and agree, that unconditional means no conditions apply?" Be sure because it gets more difficult to differentiate as we move along.

Do you understand that if there was a condition to God's love, then God would be giving conditional love? Conditional love is not the same as unconditional love as described in the preceding paragraph. I have never heard or read anywhere that God gives conditional love, have you?

Love and freedom are the same; if there is a condition to freedom, then it is not unconditional. Freedom is given from unconditional love. Freedom of choice is the same thing as unconditional love-they are all the same thing. I know this is repetitive, but if you can follow this understanding, and accept it, then there is something further you need to understand.

The following concept is extremely difficult for most people to understand. Because love, freedom, and choice are unconditional, there can be no PUNISHMENT associated with them; once again-no punishments. Here is where the so called enlightened fall by the wayside. They cannot accept any of these things without the recourse to punishment. You can practice unconditional love, unconditional freedom, and unconditional choice with no punishments! God will never punish you! Retribution is a lie, it was all made up. Only Man will punish you. Anyone who tells you different, is not coming from unconditional love. They live in fear of you accepting these things. They do not understand what unconditional means.

Most all who have read the first half of this article will not have problems with it until they get to the "No Punishment" part. At this point man's ego takes over, and will try to reason his way out of agreeing with the concept of unconditional. He will begin to say, yes I understand what unconditional means-but! Then he will start; you cannot have people running around doing whatever they want. There is a price (condition) for freedom. You can not freely love anyone you want, that is immoral (conditional). Our choices are limited by are colour, sexual orientation, creed, age, sex, and geographic region (conditional).

If you buy into these conditions, then you are in direct contradiction with what you may have agreed with when you started reading this article. If you didn't agree to the first part, then you have read farther then you were supposed to. You were warned! For those who do not agree that God is unconditional love, and don't understand the contradiction; let me explain. There seems to be a paradox here. Can unconditional love and conditional love exist at the same time? The answer is yes, because we have forgotten our heritage, we have moved away from unconditional. God gives unconditional love; man lives in conditional love!

This is where the contradiction comes from. We understand the love of God, and we feel inferior to it. We can not except that unconditional love is who we really are, and therefore apply conditions to our love and freedom. We project our human emotions and feelings onto God, effectively insulating ourselves from the reality of unconditional love. We attach certain conditions to his love. If we do not follow his will, we will be punished by him as we would punish those that would not do our will. Man's love, freedom, and choice are conditional because we have always had freedom of choice, to choose and accept those conditions which are conditional. It is paradoxal and appropriate that humanity should set conditions for itself, in direct contradiction to what God represents, and expected from his creations-that life is free to live as it desires without limitation. It is the natural course of all living things to evolve to the next best version of itself, so the natural tendency is to survive, not destroy.

Who is it that is teaching us about conditional love? Who or what is actually separating us from the unconditional love of God? The clue has been in the Newspaper's recently and has been manifesting itself for weeks. I'm in Canada, and it is August 08, 2003-the date I have written this article. For weeks now there has been a major controversy about legalized gay marriages. Who do you think is at the forefront of all the objections? Who is it that is using fear tactics to persuade politicians and supporters to change their policies? Who has come out, and said that they fear for the souls of those supporters?

They are the same profits that have for centuries, taught us of Gods conditional, unconditional love. They have taught us that God's love is unconditional, and that it must be accepted as blind faith-and yet they have set down punishments for practicing unconditional-so in effect they have made unconditional, conditional. I don't blame you if you are confused here; who wouldn't be. They have used fear, punishment, and death to implant this lie into our belief systems. They have been as the false profit. The institute does not correctly reflect God's love, nor do the profits and teachers-they don't even come close to teaching it. Their interpretations reflect only their fear that they share with the rest of humanity.

As you reason these contradictions, listen to yourself. Are you coming from unconditional love, or are you reacting from fear? Whatever you now believe, you will have chosen it from unconditional love, because that is your true nature. It should be your reality. You have unconditional freedom to live conditionally, in conditional love without freedom of choice, if that is what you desire. There is no greater display of divine love.

At this moment try to imagine choosing to live unconditionally, try to choose between the two, conditional or unconditional. And if you chose the later, how would you condition yourself to accepting it.

Feel the unconditional love as you make a free choice. As you make the choice, you should notice that you are not being punished for it. That may come later, not from God, but from those who would denounce your choice, and who are living in the realm of conditionality. If nothing else, understand the contradiction. But also understand that who you really are is free. Do not fear for your soul, your soul can take care of itself, and of course that is exactly what it is doing. It is the BLIND FAITH (which is not surrender) that leads you into darkness, when you do not question it. Faith is never blind; it is an essential step in the process of knowing.

Not taking responsibility for your own salvation has given power to those who would use your vulnerability to keep you on the straight and narrow-not yours, but theirs.

The human ability to see black and call it white, is a real blessing in a world of contradictions that require us to make a choice, and believe nothing else. There is no one that is more blind than he who will not see. This has led us into the notion of right and wrong; you are wrong, I am right. We both cannot be right-right?

As you learn to accept the choices of others not being as your own, you will free yourself from the necessity of making judgments about them, and you will be practicing unconditional love. Your new found love for yourself and humanity will set you free. It will be another major step into expanding your enlightenment. To truly free humanity, mankind must see all aspects of itself as being free; as being created from absolute unconditional love. In the greater picture, all things are perfect as they are. It is not necessary to like someone as they are, but it is necessary to love them unconditionally as they are.

The bottom line is that you cannot live your life unconditionally because you live in a physical world that is conditional. However, it doesn't stop you from experiencing unconditional love. Absolute unconditional love is the very nature of the creator-which you are-and it is only when you are focused on yourself as Creator that you will experience unconditional love.

(revised 03/2010)

Roy E. Klienwachter is an ordained minister,light worker, writer and author of Spiritual New Age Wisdom books written in simple language with the eloguence of Zen wisdom.
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Divine Love Making

Have you read or heard about the controversy surrounding the story as to whether Jesus and Mary Magdalene were partners or actually married? There are several books that elude to this matter, including the latest best seller, The Da Vinci Code by Dan Brown. Let's suppose for a moment this were actually true. Jesus was in human form after all and he embodied the principles of Divine Love or in other words he was a being of love So, how would a being of love make physical love? If love's eternal nature is to keep giving of itself, then would it be safe to say that a Divine being would GIVE love through the sensations of the body's pure sexuality when making physical love?

What is the body's pure sexuality? In essence, the body is a universe unto itself. Every internal and external organ works in harmony with each other to assure the survival of the system. The intelligence which governs the body happens naturally, and does not require you to think. For example: Do you have to tell your heart to beat? Of course not. Pure Sexuality is the innocent knowledge of love in the body. The magnetic power of pure sexuality attracts the Divine in another in order to give every quality of Love This knowledge or intelligence directs the whole body during the making of love through the body's sensations.

This is also referred to as making love with the Divine in you and in your partner. This is how a spiritual being of love makes physical love When two partners join with the conscious intent to make Divine physical love there is no thinking necessary and the love between the partners is then amplified as their vibrations are raised.

How does our thinking get in the way when making love? Thoughts get in the way when certain demands or expectations are placed on the encounter, instead of each partner being in the moment experiencing the beautiful sensations which occur naturally. Thoughts also get in the way when allowed to go to other places, persons or events from the past or to future imaginings during the love making. When this occurs, we lose the connection to the pure sexuality of the body or the Divine.

Everyone has experienced Divine love making at some time or another. These are the sensational moments when we come together without thought involved. We experience the great passion and connection with our partner through the sensations of the bodies. When the love making ends, we produce the vibration of well being and serenity that is recognizable in the presence of others. We remember these times fondly and may long to repeat them, but they cannot be recreated by thinking about them.

You can not make Divine physical love by wanting to recreate the past because your thoughts are in the way. Making Divine Physical love requires you to be the love that you are in the moment and to give from that place with no expectations or demands. If Jesus and Mary made physical love we believe this is how they would have practiced.

What do you suppose would happen if more people practiced making love this way? Practicing Divine love making can heal and restore an existing relationship or build a powerful foundation in a new relationship. This may be what is needed to end the disharmony, pain and unhappiness that so many suffer from today.

Man and woman have forgotten how to naturally engage the body's pure sexuality in order to make Divine physical love This ancient knowledge has been buried under the piles of self absorption and self justification that humanity has been practicing for thousands of years. Giving up these behaviors is the key to freedom and the greatest challenge to realizing the way to Divine love

When pure sexuality is present, the making of love between man and woman releases energies that are stored in the bodies creating a space for LOVE to expand which increases the vibratory rates of each person. Making love then becomes an opportunity to grow the knowledge of love and restore harmony. This occurs through the release of the finer energies that are exchanged through the organs of love during the making of love This is really a great miracle and women can especially benefit from these releases, as they tend to store more emotion in their bodies than men do. This also can be transformational and restore man and woman to their true nature or the being the love that they are.

Practicing Divine love making is as natural as breathing once we get our thoughts out of the way. The effort lies in the great undoing that must occur to allow the Authority of love to command our lives. We can return to this beautiful state of being by practicing honest communication and making our intentions with our partners pure. The Authority of Love is ever present and available to us every moment. When we consciously choose to align with this presence, we begin to experience more Divine love in our lives. Is there anyone on earth that would not benefit from having more love in their life?

Those who choose to consciously practice Divine love making can experience a transformation that benefits all their relationships through the realization of something greater than themselves. This is the awesome power of the Authority of Love that lives within each of us.

Judy and Steven share the powerful knowledge of Divine love and Divine love making with the teachings of JustLove and Just Communication, which they created to assist man and woman to awaken to the authority of love once again. You can learn more about these teachings at [http://www.justlovenow.com]

Raising Your Love Consciousness

About This

I was inspired to write this tele-seminar after examining my own experiences with love. Love is the key winning element that will help us to successfully transition from a life of want and scarcity to a life of abundance and well-being. Some of the "love" experiences I am mentally and spiritually referencing have been elevating and others have been very painful and some have been painfully elevating. But as my understanding of the true power of love continues to evolve then the benefits I receive become more rich and abundant. As a Business Professional, I realize that love produces wisdom, respect and promotion. As a woman, I realize that love is liberating and empowering. As a daughter, I understand that love is discerning and tough. As a lover, I offer love as motivation, protection, consolation and support to my man. And as an entrepreneur, I know that love is powerful, insightful and incredibly attractive. And as a creative being I experience love as mercy, authenticity and infinite potential. Love is what builds empires and creates giants. But what I know most of all is that without love, none of us would exist.

I'm not here tonight to motivate you, give you a to-do list or to help you with your New Year's resolutions. My goal is that your connection to me tonight will allow you to experience an energy that will help to spark thought, emotions and actions. Thought, emotions and actions that will unite you with the mighty power of love. Thought, emotions and actions that will encourage you to love someone else. Thought, emotions and actions that will give you courage and help you to discover your authenticity. Thought emotions and actions that will liberate you and attract love, success and abundance into your life. That is my goal this evening.

What is Love

Love is what will make a mother lift a 2,000 pound car off of a baby who has fallen underneath it. Love is what will make a father fight to defend the honor of his family. Love is what fueled Harriet Tubman the most famous conductor of the Underground Railroad. She forced slaves into freedom, often times against their will, at gunpoint and navigated dangerous trails some 19 times. Love is why Martin Luther King, Jr. marched on Washington and why he endured jail, hate and the disruption of his family and sacrificed his own young, precious, promising life. Love is why countless fathers around the world work demeaning jobs and sacrifice their manhood in order to feed their families. Love is sometimes why people make mistakes. It is also why people defy odds. Love is what soldiers are made of.

After much thought I realized that many of us are struggling and scratching through life because we are confused about love. And we are failing to access the power of love because we don't fully understand love. We only understand love to the extent that it is expressed in a pop song or in a tabloid. We mistake love for control and lust. We are stuck trying to fit this revolutionary concept into a narrow ego based definition bound by expectations that have nothing to do with true love. Once we understand the infinite nature of love we will understand that love is the root of our success. Love has no bounds. It cannot be measured by space and time. It sparks revolutions and ends wars. Love will help us to transform the energy of things like money, opportunity and relationships. Love can renew our mind, body and souls. Love will help us to be a conduit for wealth, abundance and well being. It transforms victims into victorious individuals who rise above emotions and mirror the thinking of the Creator. Love is our connection to The Universal Mind.

Our discussion this evening is for informational and entertainment purposes only. Tonight's tele-seminar is entitled, "How To Win in 2010". What we will be discussing this evening will help us to become winners in 2010 and beyond. It's not about systems, affirmations, New Year's resolutions and to-do lists. This is about a lifestyle focus that will keep you in the bosom of the energy of the most vibratory force in the universe. That mindset simply involves raising your love consciousness. It involves understanding that love, in fact, is life. And being aware of this fact allows your soul to breath, expand and take charge of your life.

The Universe Is Shaking Us Up

Many of you may have realized that times are changing and I'm sure you get the sense that the universe is shaking things up. Some people call it the renewing of the mind, a new world order, a day of judgment, new school or simply the changing of the guard. Whatever you call it, we all realize that in order to get different results we must begin to do things differently. We must change our mindset or our way of thinking and living so that we are consistent conduits of the Creator. Our mindsets must be fueled by intuition, inspiration and an energy that is so new and fresh that it can't help but to produce anything other than cutting edge ideas, thought leadership and fresh solutions. We must become conscious of the true power of love and understand that we are simply a channel whereby the life changing energy of love is being manifested. We have to come out of the mindset of yesterday or the mindset designed for us by someone else. To stay in that mindset means that we remain in the past. And when we remain in the past we ignore "now" and lose the potential impact of our future.

Adopting mindsets that we don't understand is very dangerous. Many of us have the mindset of destruction, scarcity and hate yet we have the desires of love, abundance and well-being. When we adopt the mindset of others we must be certain that we desire the results that this mindset will produce. We must become conscious, respectful and aware of the law of cause and effect. It is equally dangerous to allow others to be the architect of our mindset. This is why many of us pray and hope for a new day but we think like yesterday. As a result, our prayers don't produce much of anything except when we are severely threatened with death, destruction of some major life changing event. Then we call the results "miracles" and act as if our connection to The Creator is a random, surprise act.

The Transition

We are transitioning from a world built on differences, competition and cookie cutter lifestyles. In the world of yesterday there was a mindset that was the model of success. That model was built based on the existing laws and standards of society. Today, winners don't rely solely on old business and lifestyle models; they use intuition and an understanding of life in order to help guide them in the right direction. We are failing and falling short of our tremendous potential because we are missing the big picture. It's time to stop faking success. We must begin to live successfully. The most authentic, creative and unique people are successful today. They will be tomorrow's leaders. These individuals have an understanding of life that is supported by an inner force that has been dormant for generations. In order to know what life is we must first know what love is. Love is our life and those who understand its true meaning will win beyond 2010.

Why Love?

Let's discuss a few general concepts about love and how it ties to the Creator, Our Success and Human Development. For most people, the existence of love is a given, but the nature of love is a mystery. Even though the word "love" is so commonly on our tongues, hardly anyone knows what love is. In fact, love is so powerful, I'm not sure that our finite thinking can truly define such an infinite concept. And because we can't quite wrap our minds around the concept of love, we tend to slice it and dice it and chop it up so that what we identify with are pieces or slices of love. We tell people you can have a piece of my love. Remember that song, "You can have a piece of my love"..... We say that, because that's all we can truly comprehend. So we give people a piece of the slice that we have. See that's our first mistake.

Instead of trying to control and define love, we must learn to be a conduit for the love that emanates from our Creator. We have to accept the wholeness of love and stop trying to divide and conquer something that is not ours to own, divide or conquer. It is not our job to own or control love. Our job is to be a conduit for love which is the life force from which we all originated. We cannot even fully know what our life is unless we know what love is. If we don't understand the connection between love and life then we may believe that life is nothing but sensation and action.

Love is reality and wisdom is its manifestation. Love occurs only in wisdom and wisdom only from love. So love becomes manifest when it is in wisdom. The essence of love is that... what is ours should belong to someone else. Feeling the joy of someone else as joy within ourselves-that is loving. Everything in the created universe is a vessel for the divine love and wisdom of the Creator.

We are here on this earth to love. Not to only just love our Creator or to love ourselves but to show our love for His Creation. The word love scares most of us because we see love as weakness. We associate pain, disrespect and disappointment with love. Just because we are loving doesn't mean we can't defend and protect ourselves. We think that in order to be loving we have to be eternally soft, a push over or a sissy. We mistake love for lust. We expect love but are afraid to give it. We approach love with a scarcity mindset. That's because all we have is a "piece of love" and we think there is not enough to go around.

Our Misconceptions About Love

Love is not a weak word. Love is power. We associate love with being used. And for some reason we are so afraid of being used. But doesn't everyone get used in one way or another. Haven't you used someone before and left them feeling empty and unfulfilled? Maybe you did it purposely. Maybe you did it because you just didn't have anything to give. Maybe you desperately needed to be refueled. No matter what, you've been used and you have used. So, stop being so afraid and self-righteous. Now, I'm not saying that we have to be a door mat or that we have to allow someone to dog us in order to practice love. There is also love in self-preservation. Some people would say that if we want love then we must give love. And to a certain extent that is true. But we experience love even when we don't know what love is. The universe is always serving us. But when we truly understand love, we experience freedom, justice, equality and we vibrate with the universal space that produced us.

We are so afraid and disenchanted by the limited societal definition of love that we don't even know how to love. Many of us don't even want to love. We've given up on love. Well, if you've given up on the narrow, societal definition of love, then you are probably correct in doing so. But if you fail to embrace the fullness of Universal love that is bestowed on us every second of the day, then you are disappointing your own soul. We don't love ourselves and most of us don't even love our families and mates. We're just with them out of convenience, to get what we can get or because our ego needs to feel special. We are cut off from the very energy that gives us life. What if the Creator was so weak that every time we didn't live up to our full potential, He stopped loving us? What if He got scared every time we disappointed Him and decided to stop showering us with blessings, mercy and infinate potential? What if He decided that since we are so off course that there would be no more air, no more sun no more mercy or forgiveness?

The Haters

See it's easy for us to be so focused on destroying our enemy or the hate we experience that we forget the love we are graced with everyday. All you hear us talk about are haters. We make gods out of our haters. We talk and sing about haters. We write on Facebook and My Space about haters. Whatever the haters say we can't do we are motivated to do. In essence, the haters run our lives. Are we really hate-mongers disguised as spiritual people? We pray in response to haters. You worship and perpetuate hate and disrespect? The more hate and disrespect that is spewed from our television, music, news and our movie screens the better we think the show or song is. Yes, we worship hate and ignore love.

When is the last time you gave that much attention to love, honor and respect? Why don't we flock to movies that showcase love? We spend more time focused on what is not working and very little time on what "is" working. Yet, it is love that allows us to move on despite our enemies, despite our environment, despite our circumstances and despite odds that are often stacked against us. It is the power of love that ignites our successes and forces us to get up when we've been knocked out or when we make a mistake. Love is so powerful that sometimes we even forget that it exists.

Love has the highest energetic frequency of all emotions. It is the most creative force in the universe. It is the most attractive and magnetive force we will ever experience. It is tough, powerful, fulfilling, sensational, resourceful, strong, liberating, discerning, respectful, understanding, forgiving and triumphant.

Being a Conduit of Love

Now, I know that many of us are afraid to talk about God or the Creator. Many don't understand how I can teach leadership and development for entrepreneurs and talk about spirituality in the same breath. It makes a lot of people uncomfortable. Well, I tried, but I just don't know any other way to do it. I remember sitting on the floor of my apartment in 2001. I put a question out into the universe. I said, "What is missing from business?" And the word that popped into my head was "spirituality". I spent the next 6 or 7 years ignoring that question and the word that popped into my head. I even went into business and tried to ignore it. I missed the mark many times because I was afraid to combine business and spirituality since it had been so taboo in my educational and professional circles. Like many of you, I was pecking around when I should have been soaring. I missed the Big Picture.

See, entrepreneurialism is a spiritual journey. It always has been and it always will be. But what I now know is that one of my callings is to help you to understand how you can use your spirituality in a practical way that will fuel your entrepreneurial endeavors and help you to fulfill your soul's assignment. I'm not talking about religion; I'm talking about your individual connection with the Creator. I'm talking about you learning to occupy that space that only you and the Creator occupy. This is what I believe is the best way. And if you are not comfortable with it then try it your way. I support and honor whatever works for you.

The Creator alone is love Itself because He is life itself. And we are life receivers. Our receptivity develops in proportion to our love for the Creator which is demonstrated through our love for one another. Yep, sorry to tell you, but the Universe will give you what you put into it. If you are giving out "pieces" of love then you'll get "pieces" back. Do you think the Creator cares more about your service to others or how much you say you love Him? What has the greatest return on investment?

Since we are life-receivers, not life (remember The Creator is life we're just mere conduits or receivers), it follows that our conception from our parents is not the conception of life but simply the conception of the first and purest forms that can accept life. I don't want to go off on a tangent here, but what I want to point out is that we have the potential to be the purest conduits for love and life itself. We have the ability to access that energy that represents any of the attributes of our Creator. Abundance, well-being, wealth, understanding, etc. Love and life, in my opinion are synonymous.

The Law of Attraction

I want you to think about this in the law of attraction sense. Some people call the Law of Attraction the Law of Love. What the law of attraction says is that thoughts (both conscious and unconscious) can affect our environment. Quantum physics says that thoughts have an energy which attracts whatever it is the person is thinking of. So, if you begin to study love, search for love, experience love, expect love, practice love and think of love then the energy of the highest vibratory force or the earth will emanate from you. And, in turn, you will receive or attract love in its many forms. Your life and environment will reflect what you practice.

How to Win in 2010 and Beyond

This is how we are going to win and manifest in 2010 and beyond. Love will make us strong and powerful. We must give up the limited definition we have of love. In fact, we must stop trying to define it and BE it. I talk to many, many entrepreneurs and many of us are faking success. It's ok to fake it till you make it. But it's time to focus your lifestyle on a mindset that will help you to live successfully. You don't have to fake it when you live it. Real love will give us strength to carry on. It will give us the capacity to love despite our differences. It will broaden our intellectual capacity. It will help us to create conscious, authentic businesses. It will foster deep respect and honor. It will force us to atone, to understand, to give and offer our family, friends, strangers, clients and employers the best that we have to offer. It will make us go that extra mile, be better parents and successful business owners. It sharpens and clears your mind. It will produce a winning attitude. We will manifest and live abundantly. What we are doing today is either not working or it is not allowing us to live up to our potential. Stop being ashamed of love. Stop being embarrassed. Be bold and loving with a new understanding and approach to the most vibratory force in the universe. I encourage you to try love. It will transform the energy of your life.

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The Yoga of Love

The Way of Love vs. the Way of Discipline

Let's compare the Way of Love to the way of self-discipline. Generally, spiritual seekers consider discipline--especially self-discipline--as the driving force of spiritual ascent. For example, we rely on discipline to focus the mind and the energy. And we work hard to overcome the lower tendencies of ego--or at least think we should. Discipline has a lot to be said for it, but friends, if you want to bring order to your life and focus the mind, love works much better than self-discipline.

These great things that we, as seekers, strive for -- focus, constancy, and well-ordered living -- are but inherent properties of love. Consider this: When people fall in love, that love starts to bring order to their lives, almost immediately. It happens on virtually every level. They quickly change everything in their life -- naturally and happily.

Everyone knows that focus is important in spiritual ascent. Well, when in love, the most scatterbrained persons suddenly become perfectly single-pointed--focused on the beloved.

There can be no question that constancy, too, is achieved through the power of love. The lower mind is naturally fickle. And obviously, that's why great effort must be made to discipline, direct, and re-direct the mind. It's like trying to control a herd of wild horses. But the true heart is naturally constant. When one really loves something, one is naturally attracted to that thing. One naturally focuses on that thing, and does not have to make an effort to stop the mind from wandering. Thus, when the heart is allowed to lead, the heart makes the mind constant.

So as you can see, the results of being in love duplicate, and even exceed, the results of disciplined attempts to put life in order. Love achieves the goals of ordinary self-discipline and traditional spiritual effort -- focus, constancy, bringing life into a perfect order -- completely naturally. Effortlessly. Happily. Ecstatically, even. And that is a claim that no ordinary self-discipline, of a traditional nature, can possibly make.

There is a value to self-discipline, certainly. But the kind of self-discipline that is a natural expression of love is most effective. The usual ego-styled approach to problem-solving is often so problematical, and so problem-focused, as to actually reinforce problems. In contrast, love solves problems by seeing/being beyond them. Effort is self-limited; love is Self-unlimited. Love moves mountains; effort moves molehills. Effort overcomes some little challenges; love conquers all.

Any life moved by love is well-focused, uplifting, careFull. Can there be any doubt that such a life is truly Godly? Indeed, since God is love, a life directed by love is Divinely directed -- and not egoically directed, or egoically "perfected."

So we see a real difference between that discipline which exists in reaction to the ego and that love which exists in response to life, and which is of one's own heart nature. They are two very different things. The usual spiritual effort is an act in relation to ego, embraced and performed by ego. The true Way is the Way of Love. It is a response to Divinity -- even as manifest in persons -- and it is a creative expression of Divinity.

The true and natural way of the heart

The Way of Love is quite natural to us -- not in the sense that the survival instinct is "natural," but in the sense that love is inherent to who we are. So we're speaking of heart nature. No sane person would claim to be hateful or evil at heart. "I am good and loving at heart," people say. And when we respond from the heart, as the heart, we see how true that statement is. Every heart is warmed by a love exchange, while it is bored by a mediocre exchange, and chilled by a hate exchange.

And the Way of Love is natural to us, because we already love! We love our own true Self, we love the true Self of all, and we love Divinity. Ask any person these questions, and you can verify this: "Do you love Divinity: Do you love your own indwelling Divinity, such as you have seen of it? And do you love the God that is, the Divinity of all?" Invariably, the answer is, "Yes, I love that." You see, whether we call it "God" or not, surely everyone knows -- both intuitively and through various kinds of experiences -- the beauty and the power of the Divinity that is, and the Divinity that they themselves are.

And then you ask, "Do you love egoic nature? Do you love egoic tendencies?" Now, when they think about that, and they consider the grief that ego has caused to them and others, the answer will invariably be, "Certainly not!" One cannot love it. It is not lovable!

So, when we point to the Way of Love as the true and natural way, we simply point to the honest truth of who you are and what you already feel: "I love that which is Divine, and I do not love that which is of ego." We do not point to something to be achieved. We point to a love that exists and persists in the heart. And we point to who you are -- you yourself, as you are, without any lies, or pretext, or distortions in relation to that. The one who you are loves as you love, and loves what you love. And, at the same time, the one who you are does not love what it cannot and does not love.

Once the existence and persistence of love is simply acknowledged, then love can be lived as a true and natural constancy. For as we have said, people naturally focus on what they love. And they naturally order their life as love asks them to. When we love, we don't have to make an arduous, self-disciplined effort to overcome all kinds of resistance. The nature of love takes care of that.

So when we ask, "Why should it be so hard to love?" there's an intuitive rightness about that complaint. Love shouldn't be hard. Love doesn't hurt. If pain is felt by love, love is not the source of the pain -- even though love may, at times, enhance our awareness of what is painful. Love keenly feels the pain of love-refusal, the pain of smallness, the pain of egotism.

But, if loving feels hard, we are out of touch with the love that we have, and are. We are living in an illusion in which we have forgotten what we love. And in that same illusion, we may be pursuing what we do not love. So, for example, we may choose to withhold rather than share. We may opt for control instead of cooperating. We may prefer privacy to the light of consciousness. In all such choices, we choose against what we love, against who we are. And then, tragically, loving feels hard, and conflicted. This need not be.

Self-conflict arises out of a failure of the human being to truly acknowledge what they love, and what they do not love. How else could self-conflict be? Therefore, resistance and self-conflict are completely eliminated by honestly admitting these two things:

1. I love the Divinity that is, and that I am. And

2. I do not love ego -- my ego, any ego, or egoic tendencies as a whole.

No matter what we think, it's still true that we love what we love -- because we do And it is still true that we don't love what we don't love -- because we don't. We can't.

If these things are true -- and they are true -- then where is the conflict that causes spiritual striving to be arduous, difficult, repetitive, obstructed? Where is the resistance that effortful self-discipline aims to overcome? And finally: Without conflict, where is the need for struggle?

When life is given to Love

If a person is willing to admit that they love what they love, and they do not love what they do not love, then effortful seeking is finished, and enlightened life is.

What could be more enlightened than to exist as love, without conflict? Knowing that you love what you love, and you do not love what you do not love, what more is there to achieve?

In this simple acknowledgment, this daring act of self honesty, the acceptance of that, all that is considered to be the spiritual ordeal is supplanted by an immediately enlightened life -- which is, simply, an honest life.

Who are you? What do you love? If you will give the only true and honest answer, you will have it.

The true love that I am will never require of me the kind of effort ego can make. The true love that I am will never be a show that I, in the mode of ego-identification, could put on. It will never be an effort in the regular sense of the word effort. It will not be the result of regular effort, or regular striving, born of self-conflict.

In my heart and soul, I have no self-conflict. The heart is true. It is the only true thing. The heart is loyal. The heart always loves what it loves. It always does not love what it does not love. And so therefore, the heart is the answer. Love is the Way.

So, give your life wholly to what you love. Only if you do so, will you support it sufficiently to make it viable in and as your life. And if you don't, you're giving too much to what you don't love. The True Way is clear: love what you love, as you are.

Amadon is the founder of the Living Love Fellowship. Over the last thirty years, he has given personal spiritual direction to hundreds of people, in the context of committed, loving friendship. He seeks to serve each person's true self-expression and intimate relationship with God. He has written numerous articles, many of which can be found at the organization's website, http://www.soulprogress.com/

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Agapao Can't Mean, "The Unconditional, Divine Love of God" - and Phileo Can't Mean, "Brotherly Love"

Love. This seems like an important subject area for Christianity. In fact, one could even contend it is a core element of the Christian faith. After all, the first commandment is the requirement to love God - with all our heart, mind, soul and strength (Mk 12:30). The second commandment requires us to love our neighbor as our self (Mk 12:31)! This "love" requirement covers all our vital relationships - toward self, neighbor and Creator! But the centrality of this "love doctrine" extends even further. The Bible states that love fulfills the Law (Ro 13:8-10 and Gal 5:14)! So, all the requirements of the Law of God ... are fulfilled by love?! It is evidently made up of something that has the ability to satisfy the requirements the entire Old Testament theocracy! This is worth thought, investigation and inquiry!

So, ... what is love? If we are to fulfill these commands, we need some kind of definition. How else can we know if we are meeting His requirements?

A Common Teaching

There are two New Testament Greek words often translated "love" in English. Here is a common teaching - maybe the common teaching - on the meaning of these two Greek words.

1) Agapao (verb); Agapee (noun). God is agapee (1Jn 4:8). As God Himself is agapee, and since He is divine, then it logically follows that He acts (the verb) in divine love - agapao. Agapee originates in God, and can never fail (1Cor 13:8). This is clearly the highest form of love. Therefore, many teach agapao/agapee means, "the unconditional, divine love of God." It is also taught that non-Christians are separated from this love, but at conversion, one enters into this love. But, there's more! The convert becomes more than just a simple recipient of this love from God. He/she now becomes a conduit for this "alien-to-the-world" love to flow through. With Christ in the Christian, the divine love of God can unconditionally flow toward those around the Christian. And since agapao as an act of God (unconditional and unfailing), the actions, or reactions, of the targeted object are ultimately irrelevant as this love is independent of human affectations.

2) Phileo (verb); Philos (noun). This is defined as "brotherly love," or "man's love." It is the love expressed by unsaved people. Therefore, it is a lesser form of love than the divine agapao. Ultimately, it is a self-centered type of love that does have conditions to it - even if not readily detectable. As simply a human love, it is innately fickle and can be turned on and off as situations and conditions change. The transliterated word, Philadelphia (philia + adelphphia fem.), means, "the city of brotherly love," and is often cited as an example of the meaning phileo.

This teaching sounds quite learned as it appeals to the original New Testament language. It is also quite appealing as it separates the pure and holy love of God from the fickle, corruptible affections that periodically emanate from the unsaved. This really does sound great! But the part about the Christian entering into God's divine love (agapao) upon conversion - the love the world does not know - well, that is phenomenal. And when you add that the convert can become a funnel for this divine material to flow though - spontaneously, unconditionally, even divinely - to all those around - what a rush! The only problem with this teaching ... is that it is wrong. How can I be so confident about this assertion?

I had been taught, and believed, the common teaching on the meaning of agapao and phileo (related above). It had come through Biblical scholars and was even taught in several denominations to which I had been exposed. I had no reason to doubt the accuracy of this teaching as I was just "a layman" and only knew English. And surely on such an important topic - Love - the teaching was correct. But then, I went to a Bible college. After completing my first year of "Beginners Greek," I began reading the Gospel of John - the simplest of the New Testament Greek. In describing what happened next, I will now quote directly from my Ebook, "Love and the Bible" (pages 9-11, 13, and 19).

As I started in John, everything was going along quite well. Eventually, I came to John 3:16. "For God so loved (agapao) the world, that He gave His only begotten Son..." I thought, "I know that word! That's God's love! That's the love the world is incapable of generating!" I had run across the stuff of legend! There it was - the powerful, exclusive, love from God - in all it's purity and transcendency! A love generated from the deepest recesses of the heart of our benevolent Creator projected unconditionally upon an undeserving world! I thought, "Wow! This is great!" I excitedly continued my journey through John. Then, three verses later ....

I came to John 3:19. "And this is the judgement; that the light has come into the world, and men loved (agapao) the darkness rather than the light...." It took me a second, and then I said, "Say, what?" I read the verse again. I was stunned. Even now, twenty plus years later, that moment is still frozen in time. I thought, "I did not read what I just read. This is an impossible statement. Men ... with divine love - for the darkness?! WHAT?? How can men divinely love darkness??" I saw that agapao was in the Aorist mood and active voice, so I immediately went to my lexicon to make sure it was agapao. Sure enough ... it was. In disbelief, I read it again and inserted the definition for agapao I had been taught. "... and men had a divine, unconditional love - the love of God, the love from God - FOR DARKNESS!!!" The shocking reality then struck me - "Agapao cannot mean divine love!! I have been taught error ... about love!!" Aughhhhhhh. And is there a subject more central to Christianity than Love?? I'm telling you - alarms went off everywhere! A biblical understanding of love is critical - to everything as far as Christianity is concerned! We are commanded to love God, love our neighbor, love our wife, love our children, love the brethren, love life, love His coming - love our enemies!! We are not to love money, love the chief seats, love the first place ... love is all over the place - in attitudes, behaviors, actions and reactions. "I have been taught error about ... LOVE!!!" For me, this created an emergency of the first order. But, as this Ebook is interested in your input, I would like for you to now go to a poll I have on my website. It asks:

"The information I have just been exposed to has:

1) created an emergency of the first order,

2) simply pricked my interest,

3) created no emergency at all, or

4) has done nothing, as I don't know what the heck you are talking about."

The Search for Truth Begins in Earnest!

God only has to say something one time for it to be forever true and fully empowered. But if we can find other corroborating witnesses in His word on a particular subject area, that will help us to be sure we correctly understand and represent His view on that topic. With that in mind, I immediately grabbed my Greek concordance so as to examine every use of the word agapao. The verb form appears almost 150 times in the New Testament. Here are five of them.

2Ti 4:10 "Demas, having loved (agapao) this present world, deserted me..."

2Pet 2:15 "... they (false teachers) ... followed the way of Balaam ... who loved (agapao) the wages of unrighteousness.

Jn 12:43 "For they (the Pharisees) loved (agapao) the approval of men rather than the approval of God."

Lk 11:43 "Woe to you Pharisees! For you love (agapao) the front seats in the synagogues, and (you love - agapao) respectful greetings in the market places."

Lk 16:13 "No servant can serve two masters; for he will either hate the one, and love (agapao) the other .... You cannot serve God and mammon."

There are sixteen uses of agapao/agapee in this vein. These will all be listed later.

"Ohhh ... What about phileo?"

Immediately, another word came to mind. "What about phileo? Does that mean, 'brotherly love'? Is it a human love inferior to agapao?" Within minutes, I discovered that phileo had nothing to do with brotherly love! NOTHING!! In John 5:20, Jesus stated, "For the Father loves (phileo) the Son, and shows Him all things that He Himself is doing...." In this passage, phileo is an activity between God the Father and God the Son!! This "stuff," is generated from inside God the Father and its target is God the Son! Man is completely outside the loop! I thought, "Phileo cannot mean 'brotherly love' or some second rate man's love! It can't! Furthermore, how can it be inferior to agapao when it is generated by God Himself?

So, there I stood ....

So, there I stood, six years into my Christian experience - with no idea what the Bible itself actually taught about love! What a betrayal! I had naively relied upon the integrity of those Greek "scholars" in my past - and I propagated their error - their false teaching - their heresy! And the errant material dealt with - Love! What a subject to be screwed up on! After the feelings of shock, anger, and grief ... came cool resolve. A journey was launched for me the day I ran across the statement that "men loved (agapao) the darkness rather that the light; for their deeds were evil" (Jn 3:19).

My Starting Point

While I did not know what the Bible did teach on this subject, I did know this. Agapao could not mean divine love, and phileo could not mean brotherly, or man's, love. So, I already did know more than my "teachers" knew on the subject! That encouraged me a little bit. Things could only get better - if God would grant me the wisdom, understanding and insight needed to grow into truth. So, I asked Him for that assistance. That was my starting point. If this sounds reasonable to you, maybe you could take a moment and ask the same.

Back to this Article

Here is a listing of all the "profane uses" of agapao and agapee. Plug in the common teaching's definition of "divine love," and you will see it is impossible for agapao/agapee to mean, "divine love."

Evil (or Neutral) or Non-Divine Agapao (verb) Uses:

Only loving those who love you (Mt 5:46).

Two masters - hate one and love the other - can choose agapao for money over God (Mt 6:24).

Sinners also love those that love them (Lk 6:32 - this is two uses in one breath!).

Which released debtor will love the releasing lender most? (Lk 7:42).

Pharisees love the uppermost seats and respectful greetings (Lk 11:43).

Men loving darkness (Jn 3:19).

Pharisees loving the praise of men more than the praise of God ( Jn 12:43).

Peter being asked if He loved Jesus "more than these" (Jn 21:15).

Demas having loved this present age (2Ti 4:8).

Balaam who loved the wages of unrighteousness (2Pet 2:15).

Admonition to not love the world. If one does, the love of the Father is absent (1Jn 2:15).

Not to love with word or tongue, but in deed and truth (1Jn 3:18).

Evil or Non-Divine Agapee (noun) Uses:

Love of many that grows cold (Mt 24:12).

Leaving first love (Rev 2:4).

The Bible teaches:

Agapao and Agapee are routinely expressed by man (saved and unsaved) and also by God.

Agapao (verb) displayed by God: "... for God loves a cheerful giver." 2Cor 9:7. This use can be found in dozens of other passages.

Agapao (verb) displayed by saved man: "He that loves his brother abides in the light ...." 1Jn 2:10. This use can be found in dozens of other passages.

Agapao (verb) displayed by unsaved man: "... men loved darkness rather than the light ...." Jn 3:19. Also see, Mt 5:26, Mt 6:24, Lk 6:32, Lk 7:42, Lk 7:47, Lk 11:43, Jn 12:43, 2Ti 4:10, 2Pet 2:15, 1Jn 2:15, 1Jn 3:18 and Mt 24:12. A couple of these are injunctions to Christians to direct agapao in the right direction (e.g., 1Jn 2:15 and 1Jn 3:18).

Agapee (noun) in reference to God: "God commended His love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." Ro 5:8, plus dozens of other examples.

Agapee (noun) in reference to saved man: "...and walk in love, just as Christ also loved you ...." Eph 5:2. (This is the passage where the noun and verb are not divorced - "just as Christ also loved (agapao) you!" The same stuff!

Agapee (noun) in reference to unsaved man: "And because lawlessness is increased, most people's love will grow cold" (Mt 24:12). See also Revelation 2:4.

The truth is, agapao abounds all around us, being practiced by sinners and saints alike. And it is directed towards animate as well as inanimate objects! It is practiced towards money, towards places of honor, and towards the world! Once you understand what agapao is, you will begin to recognize its presence all around you. The Bible does not list every use of expressed agapao in its pages. But it gives enough examples to set us on the trail to see its expressions and activities in this world. You see, agapao does abound - whether you see it or not, whether you understand what it is or not, or whether you are willing to acknowledge it or not. And sinners exude it in all directions as they "agapao the darkness!" (Jn 3:19).

Phileo

Here are some passages where phileo is used - and can not mean "brotherly love," or a "man's love." Plug in either definition, and you will see it is impossible for the common teaching to be correct.

The Father's love for the Son (Jn 5:20).

Jesus' love for Lazarus (Jn 11:3).

The Father's love for the disciples (Jn 16:27).

Jesus' love for John (Jn 20:2).

Jesus' love for His own (Rev 3:19).

The Bible teaches:

Phileo is routinely expressed by man (saved and unsaved) and also by God!

Phileo displayed by God: "Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline." Rev 3:19. See also Jn 5:20, Jn 11:3, Jn 11:36, Jn 16:27a, and Jn 20:2.

Phileo displayed by saved man: "Greet them that love us in the faith." Tit 3:15. See also, Jn 16:27b, Jn 21:15,16,17, and 1Cor 16:22 (a critically important use to be examined in detail later).

Phileo displayed by unsaved man: "Outside ... (is) everyone who loves and practices lying." Rev 22:15. There are seven other uses like this. See Mt 6:5, Mt 10:37 (twice), Mt 23:6, Lk 20:46, Jn 12:25, and Jn 15:19.

As you can see, it is impossible for phileo to mean, "brotherly love."

So, agapao and agapee are expressed by man (saved and unsaved), and by God. Phileo is also expressed by man (saved and unsaved), and by God! Man and God display both.

I hear many of you now asking, "So, what does agapao/agapee mean? And what does phileo mean? And why are so many 'Greek scholars' in error on what the Bible teaches about love?" Well, the intent of this Article has been to expose that agapao/agapee cannot mean, "the unconditional, divine love of God" - and that phileo cannot mean, "brotherly love." This has been done by simply quoting Bible passages that confound such definitions. Even those who have no knowledge of New Testament Greek can see these definitions are impossible - thus refuting the common teaching about biblical love. In order for you to find out what these Greek words actually do mean - and why so many "scholars" are in such tremendous error - you can find out in my free Ebook, "Love and the Bible" at my Website listed in the Author Bio. Of course ... maybe an accurate understanding of what the Bible actually does teach about love is not really that important....

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This Article is an excerpt from Robin’s exhaustive Bible study on Love. Do you think “love” is an important Biblical topic? This Free Christian Ebook will change your understanding about love - toward God and man - and things! Robin has a BA, Bus Admin (Milligan College '90) and M-Div (Emmanuel School of Religion '92). Mental adventurer - Come On In!

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